QUOTE: "THE BEST AND STRONGEST ATTRACTION IS UNSPOKEN… IT’S THAT CRAZY CHEMISTRY WHERE YOU DON’T HAVE TO SAY A WORD.” ~ UNKNOWN *** For some time now, I have pondered just what exactly attracts one to another… and am sure it is as individualistic and subjective to each of us as our fingerprints. There are those who say that sexual attraction, emotional and mental chemistry does not need to be explained, that the person just has to have that certain ‘je ne sais quoi,’ or quality that cannot be defined. I for one, am attracted to one’s personality first and foremost – one who is: down-to-earth and easy to be with, open-minded, creative, intelligent, emotionally available, challenging, and communicative, with whom I can have fun and laugh with. There are a myriad types of attractions one can have for another. We could have chemistry with or be mysteriously and magnetically drawn to several people for different reasons. It is possible to have sexual chemistry with one, while connecting emotionally with another, and yet click with another on a purely mental, intellectual and cerebral level, which could make for some hours and hours of conversing delectably while losing track of time. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could find someone with whom we could connect on all of these levels? Then begs the question: Can One Love Partner Totally Fulfill All Our Needs? If they could, I would think both partners would have to work on maintaining that special connection. Perhaps, like my sister believes and maintains, we need a different partner for each of our needs. Moreover, I have often wondered, Are We All Meant To Be Monogamous? SOME OF THE QUALITIES WE ARE ATTRACTED TO IN OTHERS: Let’s start with the more obvious and common qualities: someone who is attractive, hot and sexy, has a great body (i.e. tall, petite, well-endowed, svelte, smooth soft skin, small perky tits, long shapely legs, etc.), dresses well (Ahh, those high-heeled pumps, tight jeans, that nice suit, or stylish glasses, etc.), smells nice, has a great sense of humour ~ Is Into You. They say that opposites attract - who in turn complement each other, but like attracts like as well. What about someone who is intelligent, articulate, analytical, quirky, eccentric, warm, sincere, honest, thoughtful and kind with a big heart? Do you find someone with a sultry, raspy, sensual, or rich, deep masculine voice appealing? Many find a strong, bold, confident, feisty, charismatic, dynamic, outspoken person with a great attitude sexy. Others cite one who is sweet, bubbly, with a great smile, and is outgoing as being able to get their juices flowing. Does someone who is athletic, has a sense of adventure, is spontaneous, goofy and playful and courageous turn you on? Are you enticed by the way she flirts with you as she pouts her full, red, luscious lips, tosses her luxurious, long hair while glaring into your eyes suggestively, uncrosses her sheer stockinged legs, leans closer to whisper softly in your ear, or are you drawn to the way he walks with his head held high, and struts so confidently with a swag? Then there are the things they do for you, like: being a good provider, mentor, nurturing, maternal, paternal, supportive, committed, tender, devoted, loyal, dependable, a great listener, or deep, inspiring and insightful. Do they make you feel safe, understood, comfortable, give a great massage, and are they someone who gives you space to grow, lets you be yourself, and is respectful, non-judgmental and accepting of you for who you are? How about a generous helping of a silent, intense, mysterious, brooding one from across the room with smoldering ‘come fuck me' bedroom eyes? Or how sexy is it to be wooed by a shy and awkward, sensitive, artistic one, with whom there is a connection, who is empathetic and in tune with your every thought and emotion? Is he/she romantic, sensual, sexual, passionate, loving, affectionate and tactile with a great touch, good hygiene, and fantastic in bed? Perhaps they are naive, younger, mature, dark, edgy, jaded, wounded, full-figured, submissive, dominant, talented, witty, positive, or spiritual? Do they have a pretty face, superbly manicured hands, or smooth silky feet? The list goes on and on. Just what is it about that rebellious Bad Boy/ Bad Girl that excites many of us so much? Do You Enjoy The Chase, Or Do You Like To Be Chased? Could it be someone who makes us feel good about ourselves or needed, with whom we can Be Their Hero, as is often the case with many men? Do you want a lover who shares your Love Language? Some people remind you of or help you reminisce about a pleasant time in your life, or a certain special someone from the past (i.e. mother, father, a first love, ex love, etc.). Attraction is certainly intriguing, and we may never completely have all the answers, as each of us brings out an alternate and unique aspect of each other to be discovered, and what we are looking for or need in terms of attraction is ever changing and/or evolving with the seasons and phases of our lives. There are always new discoveries about oneself that are laying dormant waiting to be tapped into and unveiled, and what you discover about yourself may even surprise you. So I guess we can just let it be and chalk it up to life and an array of exhilarating, adventurous experiences which we can learn from and enjoy along the way, as we are not here for a long time, but for a good time after all.