PART 2 - CONTD. FROM PART 1 *** THE PSYCHOLOGY OF FINDOM: "Money to many people represents power and what is being enacted in a findom dynamic is a person giving that up. What is not expected is for you to work day after day so you can GIVE IT AWAY TO SOMEONE ELSE ONLY BECAUSE THEY DEMAND IT. The HUMILIATING language that usually accompanies this intensifies that dynamic of feeling powerless. It is a masochistic dynamic in that the person engaging in it finds pleasure in the suffering. The link between PAIN AND PLEASURE can often come from traumatic experiences. For example, those who experienced neglect as children may consider themselves ‘bad’ and deserving of punishment. Those who seek out the services of a Findomme may long to give up control in their lives – people who FEEL SMALL AND POWERLESS and seek out this familiar dynamic. There is a RISK OF DEVELOPING AN ADDICTION. There is A PSYCHOLOGICAL RELEASE that often becomes compulsive. For many, there is a progressive element to it as THEY MIGHT NEED TO GIVE AWAY GROWING SUMS OF MONEY TO GET THE SAME FIX.” / Vicky Reynal, Financial Psychotherapist/ Author. PAY PIG’S FINANCIAL OBLIGATIONS: Pay pigs are required to pay CLIMAX TAX, or shy subbie tax, small penis tax, pay pig tax, loser tax, sissy slut tax, tithes or daily dues to their FinDomme. Thus a Pay Pig is PAYING TRIBUTE TO, OR PAYING RESPECT TO HER. Tributes: Spontaneous offerings used to express your devotion and adoration and desire to please your Mistress. If your begging pleases her, she may actually ALLOW YOU TO SEND A TRIBUTE. If not, she will happily ENJOY THE PLEASURE OF MAKING YOU SUFFER. Tithings: A consistent offering sent on a schedule. 10% of your regular earnings is to be immediately sent to your Mistress as your tithe, with no exceptions! TIPS FOR FINDOMMES: Set your boundaries before wallet breaking. Fin Subs should clarify to Findommes what they want, and SET FINANCIAL LIMITS and SAFE WORDS. The fin sub should discuss how much they can give without going over their limit for what they actually need for living. A Findomme should tell a Fin Sub when he first approaches that they need to make a tribute first to show how much they crave being your sub. They should see it as A PRIVILEGE. “How much they send will show me how much they think my financial ownership is worth. If they do not send an amount that meets my standards, I will already know that what they have to offer is not worthy of my time and energy.” / Mistress Jaylene of ‘Femme Forth,’ You Tube. RISKS TO A PAY PIG: Financial ruin, addiction, loss of property, increasing debt levels, anxiety, psychological and physical harm (mostly through self-torture), and impact on real life personal relationships. Pay pigs can get counselling as to how to contain their Findomme pleasures so that it doesn’t leak over into other aspects of their lives. NAYSAYERS: “Some people may see my work as exploitative, but it’s really not. They’re having fun. It’s a good thing, for me and for them. As much as I’m in control, it’s still their choice.” / Diamond, Professional Dominatrix. A PAY PIG WRITES: “Love paying this wonderful lady whenever I can, which isn't as often as she deserves, but she still allows me to exist in her world.” / ryan6